One Art
The art of losing isn’t hard to master;
so many things seem filled with the intent
to be lost that their loss is no disaster.
Lose something every day. Accept the fluster
of lost door keys, the hour badly spent.
The art of losing isn’t hard to master.
Then practice losing farther, losing faster:
places, and names, and where it was you meant
to travel. None of these will bring disaster.
I lost my mother’s watch. And look! my last, or
next-to-last, of three loved houses went.
The art of losing isn’t hard to master.
I lost two cities, lovely ones. And, vaster,
some realms I owned, two rivers, a continent.
I miss them, but it wasn’t a disaster.
—Even losing you (the joking voice, a gesture
I love) I shan’t have lied. It’s evident
the art of losing’s not too hard to master
though it may look like (Write it!) like disaster.
BY ELIZABETH BISHOP
I’ll admit it. I feel a bit scared and a bit defeated. 8 days until I leave.
It’s been difficult. And then it got easier. I have let things distract me and take my mind away from all the pain. And in that time I have begun to heal. But as D-Day approaches I feel a little down.
I have been stuck in this limbo for so many weeks now, this period of knowing I’m leaving but not leaving quite yet that I have gotten comfortable here. And I’d be lying if I said I wasn’t completely terrified of this new life I decided to make for myself. Maybe the easier thing would have been to stay in the long run.
But no, I’m leaving. Everything is set for me to go. Lorenzo is in NY along with most of what I could call my own. Marco will send what is in BCN to NY. And then that’s it. I get on a a plane and NY is my new home again.
In my head I play out all these sweet scenarios of meeting cool co-workers and eating out at new restaurants. My sisters meeting me out and about and taking the city by storm. But that’s not reality.
The truth is my new job is going to weigh on me. I’ll have forever long days with my commute only to return home to my smothering bickering mother. My sisters will ignore me like they have all these years from a distance. And who knows how easily I’ll meet new people.
Leaving also means finally closing the door on my life here. It means really saying goodbye to Marco and not knowing if I’ll ever see him again. We’re not ending on the terms I would have liked. He doesn’t seem to get me. He seems maddened at my persistent angry sadness or infuriated at my prolonged professions of love for him. He doesn’t get that I don’t want to let go. That I love him. I guess he never will. I can’t make him get it. End of story.
And so with 8 days left I’m nervous. Breathe in, breathe out. I can do this. I will get on the plane in just over a week even if I feel like I’m leaving something behind and moving on to something I’m not quite sure I want.